想成功你就得去这些难事那些别人不做的事情

那些难事区别着平庸和非凡成功两种不同的生活方式

Those are the things that define you.
Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success.

正是这些难事定义你，正是这些难事区别着平庸和非凡成功两种不同的生活方式。 制定合理预算 想办法削减某些部分 　　There’s this famous quote that can spark an interest to challenge yourself within you:
下面这句名言或许能激发你挑战自我的兴趣：
“If something that you’re doing doesn’t challenge you, then it doesn’t change you.” Unknown“如果你做的事情毫无挑战，那么你也将毫无改变。”——无名氏Of course, since every one of us has room for improvement, this can also mean if you don’t change yourself, then you can’t be responsible for changing your situation in life.
You can never see any improvement in your life if you stick to your comfort zone.
We all need a healthy dose of normal stress in our lives, after all.
We can only see what we’re really capable of if we make the effort to go over our pre-conceived limits.
Don’t limit the challenges you encounter in life - challenge the limits that your “lizard brain” crafted instead:
当然，每个人都有提高的空间。这也表示，如果不改变自己，你也就无法改变你的生活境况。如果沉溺在舒适区，你永远也不会看到生活有所改观。要知道，生活中我们都需要适量的正常压力。只有努力战胜预想的极限，我们才能发现自己真正擅长什么。不要限制生活中遇到的挑战——而应挑战大脑设定的各种极限。
1.
Learn a new language.
学一门新语言。
Hangul, Nihonggo, French, Filipino, Mandarin, Spanish: these are just some of the languages you can discover as you strive to challenge yourself.
Learning a new language isn’t just another way to pad your resume; if you really get into it, you can even use this skill to tutor on the side and earn extra cash.
韩语、日语、法语、菲律宾语、汉语、西班牙语：当你准备挑战自己时，可以尝试学习这些语言。学一门新语言并不只是为了丰富简历；如果你全心投入，或许还能靠这个技能做家教挣点小钱。
2.
Figure out what you’re scared of – and do it for one week consistently.
弄清自己害怕什么，然后坚持尝试一周。
If you’re in sales, and you’re scared of talking to people personally or over the phone, then you have a problem.
You can’t just relate with your clients online, can you? Now, instead of crippling in fear and automatically thinking you’ll fail, spend at least five minutes a day to pick up the phone and make a call to a prospect.
Yes, it’s scary.
Yes, you may embarrass yourself.
And yes, someone may hang up on you.
But don’t stop on the first try just yet! You’ll get the hang of it eventually.
After a while, you can look at fear in the eyes and say, “Go on, I’m not scared!”
如果你从事销售工作，却很害怕跟人当面或电话交谈，那可就有问题了。你不能只通过网络联系客户，对吧？现在，不要再畏缩害怕，不要再不自觉地认为会做不好，每天至少花5分钟拿起电话联系某个潜在客户吧。没错，这让你感到害怕。没错，你可能会出糗。而且，也会有人挂断你的电话。但是，千万不要刚尝试就放弃！因为最后你肯定能做到的。不久，你就能直面恐惧并告诉自己：“来吧，我不怕！”
3.
Take a class for a hobby you’ve been wanting to pursue.
报培训班学习一直想发展的爱好。
Make sure this hobby is not linked to your career; you have to relax and de-stress while performing this.
Some examples might be cooking, sewing, painting and graphic designing online.
确定这个爱好跟工作无关；在从事这项爱好时，你必须能够解压放松。类似爱好可以是烹饪、缝纫、绘画或网络平面设计。
Aside from helping you challenge yourself now, taking a class for your hobby can also give you extra income if you learn how to monetize it.
(You get plus points if you take the class with a loved one.
This way, you combine bonding, boosting your income and challenging yourself.)如果你懂一点生财之道的话，参加爱好培训班除了能帮你挑战自我，还可以为你带来额外收入。（如果你是和心爱的人一起参加，你不仅能挑战自我、赚外快，还可以增进彼此感情。）4.
Attend one career-related seminar a month.
每月参加一场职场类研讨会。
Don’t settle for your current job position.
Aim high in your career.
Of course, with that aim, include in your action, too.
Book conferences that are relevant to the industry of your profession.
There, absorb the lesson.
Ask sensible questions.
And don’t forget to connect with the attendees and the keynote speakers.
Sometimes, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know,” may be a reality.
不要满足于当下的职位。将职业目标定高一些。当然，除了目标，还要拿出行动来。预定和自己职业行业有关的会议，然后在会上多加学习，多提合理问题，并且，别忘了和其他与会者以及重要发言人保持联系。有时候，现实就是“重点不在于你知道什么知识，而在于你认识什么人”。
5.
Make a realistic budget and find out how you can cut back on something so you can invest more.
制定合理预算，想办法削减某些部分，以便加大对其他方面的投资。
Challenge yourself to step out of your current budget and develop a better budget for yourself.
Money management is not about what you make – it’s what you do with what you make.
挑战自己抛开现在的预算，然后制定一个更好的。财务管理不在于你能挣多少钱，而在于你能用挣到的钱干什么。
- So, produce a budget on paper, or in an Microsoft Excel file.
所以，在纸上制定一个预算吧，用Excel也可以。
- Identify the item you’ve been spending so much money on.
找出自己开销比较大的方面。
- Cut back on that item so you have more money to put in your emergency fund or in your investment fund.
然后削减在那方面的开销，这样你就有更多钱用来投资到应急基金或投资基金里了。 不要比较 我们都是独一无二的存在着 　　Everyone deals with discouragement at some point in their life.
It’s part of what makes the human experience rich—the highs and the lows.
If we didn’t experience the lows, then we wouldn’t appreciate the highs.
每个人都有灰心丧气的时候。正是这段时光充实了我们的人生经历-高潮低谷。如果我们不经历低谷又怎么能达到人生高潮呢。
Discouragement, disappointment, failure, and setbacks—these are all things that can help us if we maintain an empowering mindset.
The key to life is to learn from these experiences, and minimize the amount of time that we allow ourselves to stay discouraged.
So the next time you start to feel discouragement, here is what you should do:
灰心，失望，失败和挫折-都是能帮助我们保持坚强心态的东西。生命的秘诀在于从这些经历中学习，减少我们持续萎靡灰心丧气的时间。所以下次觉得低落的时候，试着干干这些：
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Take the long view从长远的角度看Discouragement generally occurs when our expectations (what we think should happen) don’t align with reality (what actually happens).
In many cases our expectations are unrealistic, and this often has to do with how long we think things should happen.
If we take a longer view, and relax our expectations a little, it can really help to decrease discouragement.
The reality is that most things that are worthwhile take a lot of effort and time to come to fruition.
So be patient!
当我们的期望（我们觉得应该发生的事情）没有变成现实（实际发生的事情），我们就会失望。在很多情况下，我们的期望都是不切实际的，这也和我们对时间的预估有着一定的关系。如果我们从长远去看，放低一下期望，也能有效减轻我们的失落感。事实是最值得我们付出努力和时间最重要的事情就是等着好结果。所以耐心点吧！
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Remember, there is no such thing as failure.
There is only education记住！没有真正的失败，只是成长教育而已。
When we feel like we have failed at something, discouragement often follows.
However, failure doesn’t really exist, except for the meaning that we give it.
If we don’t get the result that we want, when we want it, we just need to take new action.
当认为我们在某些事失败之后，低落感也随之而来。然而，失败并不真正的存在，除非我们给事情赋予了失败的含义。如果我们没有及时得到想要的结果，只需要采取新的行动。与其把失败当成是一件坏事，We can choose, instead of thinking of failure as bad, to think of failure as education, and therefore good.
When we view it this way we realize that failure isn’t something that is bad, or something to be avoided.
It is simply feedback.
When we think this way we ease discouragement.
我们可以选择把失败看成是一种沉成长教育，一件好事。如果这样看待问题，我们就会知道失败并不是什么坏事或者需要尽力避免的事情。只是一个小挫折而已。这样想，低落感就能减轻啦。
3.
Stay true to our vision.
See it again in our mind不抛弃理想，再做一次白日梦吧If we are feeling discouraged, think about our vision.
Think about what we want to create in our life.
See it clearly.
Feel what it would feel like if the image came into reality.
What would this mean for us? How would we feel.
Once we see it, and feel it, we will also feel empowered and our discouragement will dissipate.
感到沮丧的时候，想想自己的理想。想想我们想要获得些什么。仔细的去想，感受一下如果梦想成真会是什么感受。对我们会意味着什么？我们会有什么样的心情。一旦我们去幻想，去感受，就会感到充满了力量，沮丧也就烟消云散了。
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Don’t let our ego get in the way of our development不要让自负阻碍了自我的发展Our ego is often the primary cause of our feelings of disappointment and discouragement.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
We can control our ego.
When we do this, we are on the path of development.
When we are internally strong enough to handle constructive criticism, and feedback, we receive the rewards of growth.
Growth leads to happiness.
自负往往是造成失落感和沮丧的最主要缘由。其实并不一定要这样，我们可以控制自己。一旦控制了，我们就已经迈向了进步的阶梯。一旦我们真正有能力去面对处理那些批判、挫折，我们就会得到成长的礼物。成长的尽头是幸福。
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Stop comparing ourself to others.
We’re on a unique path不要和别人比较，我们都是独一无二的A sure fire, 100% guaranteed way to get discouraged is to focus on other people in a comparative way.
Here is why: we generally see their victories, successes, and strengths.
We see what they have and what we don’t.
We see why they are better than us.
When we do this we get discouraged and we feel sorry for ourselves.
We don’t as easily see their struggles, their fears, their setbacks, and their failures.
毫无疑问，一直把自己和别人比较绝对会让我们低落。为什么呢：我们往往看到的都是他们的成果、成功和优点。我们看到的是他们有我们却没有的部分，我们看到的是为什么他们比我们优秀。一旦这样，我们就很容易感到失望为自己感到难受。同时，我们很少去关注他们的挣扎、害怕，挫折和失败。
So don’t do it.
It isn’t empowering.
Don’t compare.
We are on a unique path.
It is great to be inspired by another, but if by hearing another’s story, we feel that we are lesser, then we need to just focus on our own path.
所以不要这样了，这只会让你更加泄气。不要比较，我们都是独一无二的存在着。让别人去激励你固然好，但如果别人的故事让你觉得自身有所不足，那么只需要专注自己就好了。 想成功你就得去做些难事 　　You have to do the hard things.
想成功你就得去这些难事：
You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.
你得去打那些你不敢打的电话。
You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.
你得在你想赖床的时候强迫自己早起。
You have to give more than you get in return right away.
你得付出比你当下获得的回报更多。
You have to care more about others than they care about you.
你得比别人在乎你更在乎他们。
You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.
哪怕你已经受伤、鲜血淋漓和疼痛难忍，你还是得继续奋斗。
You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing it safe seems smarter.
你得去体会所有不确定和不安全，虽然谨慎求稳会是你当下更聪明的选择。
You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.
你得学会领导，哪怕还没有任何人在跟随你。
You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.
就算别人不会，你也得投资自己。
You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.
有时候你得看起来像个傻子，因为你要去追寻那些你没有的答案。
You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.
你得死抠细节，虽然放过它们会更容易。
You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.
你得展现出成果，虽然你也可以选择找借口。
You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts.”
就算有人告诉你要接受那些“事实”，你也得去寻找你自己的解释。
You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.
你得犯错，让你自己看起来跟个傻子一样。
You have to try and fail and try again.
你得经历努力失败再努力的过程。
You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.
就算你已经上气不接下气，你还得跑得再快一些。
You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.
你得友好对待那些残忍对你的人。
You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable.
你得在那些完全不合理的最后期限前完成任务。
You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.
就算出了差错，你也得对自己的行为负责。
You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.
不管你的前面有什么，你也得一直朝着你想要到达的目的地前进。